We think that we are in control of our own lives and don’t need Jesus because we can handle everything on our own.
The Temptation to Control our Children: Serving the Lord’s Portion to our Teens
All the control I could ever exert over my children that I think will bring peace and order in my heart and home is nothing compared to the peace that comes from God: the peace that he established in creation, the peace that Christ gave us through the cross, and the peace that the Holy Spirit uses to continually instruct us.
Seek not what you can’t control, but seek after the peace that comes in relenting to the God who created our children and loves them abundantly more than we do.
Laying our child’s needs at God’s feet reminds us of our limitations, releasing us from feeling like we have to play god in our child’s life.
When I am caught up in a spin cycle of anxiety, I do not have the peace of God that would allow me to notice and respond with comfort to my child’s worries.
At times, God will call us to lean into our instinct to fix, advocating for our teens as they navigate the rough waters of emerging adulthood.
It’s not actually up to our children to be masters of their own destinies. And it’s certainly not up to us as their parents.